Relationship or Connection?

Thinking more about the last post on the importance of my relationship with Aliveness. From a nonduality standpoint there is the question, “who is having the relationship”?  There must be two or more to have relationship. How can there be relationship if there is only One.

Looked up the definition of the word relationship and the ones I liked most were…. (1) The way in which two or more concepts, objects or people are connected. (2) The “sense” of being connected.

If I substitute the word “connection” for the word “relationship” a new understanding comes to light.  A true connection is not two separate things…but those separate things becoming one. All the different types of relationships come to mind such as family, friends, coworkers, casual, intimate and I look at them to determine if I feel connections or if I am relating as a separate self to their separate self. The second definition indicates that connection is a sensation or feeling.

I realize that most of my relationships are not connections but two or more sharing their separateness. I would like for that to be different and maybe that’s why a connection with Aliveness/Presence is important to me.  Although an open connection with others is probably…. absolutely… the exact same thing.

 

Advertisements

3 Comments

Filed under Absolute, Contemplation, Direct Inquiry, Enlightenment, Nonduality, Self Realization, Spirituality, Uncategorized, Zen

3 responses to “Relationship or Connection?

  1. Sometimes poetry can help us to reflect upon these matters I think:

    • Thank you for taking time to share The Still Point, I love it. While writing this about connectedness, I thought of the Rumi quote of the field beyond right doing and wrong doing…I’ll meet you there!

      • Yes, that is a lovely piece by Rumi which I know well. I am pleased that you appreciate this clip from Eliot’s Four Quartets. It is not exactly about ‘connection’, though then again it is in a way. Once awareness connects – so to speak – with the still point from which it observes itself and the turning world, then perhaps we all meet Rumi there.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s